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Posted: January 06, 2014

Best of CoBiz: Seven spiritual barriers to finding a job

There's not always another shoe waiting to drop

John Heckers

I'd like to go off the beaten path in this post. There are many reasons why people remain unemployed, some of which I have discussed elsewhere. But, in my previous article, I left out some of the most important reasons that people remain unemployed, and those are the spiritual reasons. Here are a few of these deeper reasons.

1). Negativity. Some people see the world in a negative fashion. They expect bad things to happen to them. They expect that their plans will fail, their world will crumble and that things will fall apart time and again. What we expect and concentrate on often happens. If we concentrate on the positive, positive things happen to us. If we concentrate on the negative, we get negativity in our lives. Of course, just because we concentrate on the positive doesn't mean that we'll never fail nor have something bad happen to us. But it does mean that we can deal with it.

2). Waiting for the other shoe to drop. Many people, in life, are constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop. If something great is going on, they think it can't last. If someone loves them, they'll die or leave. If there is a great job opportunity, there must be something that they're not seeing. Sometimes, things that are great are just great. Rather than waiting for them to end, enjoy the time you have. And, of course, in the end the other shoe does drop. It is called "dying" and we'll all do it. But why not enjoy life until then?

3). Mongering fear. Too many people live for mongering fear. This wins elections and gets TV and radio ratings for raving lunatics, but it is very bad for us as a nation and individually. The sky is not going to fall. And (fill in the politician's name) is not Hitler. Fear mongering and buying into the fear that these folks monger keeps us in a constant state of anxiety and creates fearful things happening in our lives. Turn off those who would have you constantly fearful, whether over the airwaves, on the internet or in your personal life.

4). Worrying. Worrying is nothing more than negative visualization. Time after time it has been shown that those who visualize positive things will create positive things in their lives. Those who vision negative things call these things into their lives. If you are a constant worrier, you are actually bringing many of the things you worry about to pass. Whatever we persistently and with focus concentrate on is what tends to happen.

5). Being "independent." Independence is a dangerous myth. We are all radically inter-dependent on one another. Don't believe me? Try, just for one year, not to wear anything where you haven't grown the cotton or kept and sheared the sheep, spun the fabric, and made it yourself. We are dependent on the toil of others in our community just to keep us alive. Don't be afraid to make connections and ask for help. And don't be afraid or too proud to accept help with an attitude of gratitude and acceptance. And, please, get over the attitude that everyone should pull themselves up by their own bootstraps. It is both absurd and dysfunctional. Someday you, too, may need the help and compassion of others.

6). Anger or bitterness. Having negative emotions toward your old employer, some generation, or even a politician or the economic climate is holding you back. There are too many people out there that want to get you angry and keep you angry. Turn them off or ignore them. They are toxic for you.

7). Seeing your job as your source. Your job is not your income source. The Universe or God or Allah or Great Spirit or the Force or whatever-you-want-to-call-it is your source. Learn how to access the endless Universal/Divine wealth and prosperity and you will not be dependent upon your job, though it may still be the main channel of your income. This may sound crazy, but I've been practicing it for many years, as have many others.

Don't get me wrong. I'm not saying it isn't brutal out there, or that any of this can be accomplished overnight. But by following a disciplined spiritual path, meditating and visioning the positive, very real changes in your life and job situation can occur. I have seen it happen many times, and know that you, too, can begin to turn things around.

John Heckers, MA, CPC, BCPC was an Executive, Relationships, Life and Spiritual Coach in Denver with 30 years of experience  helping people with their lives, relationships and careers.

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Readers Respond

Well said... particularly #4. Reminds me of the quote I heard years ago: "He who fears he will suffer, already suffers what he fears" By Rich E. on 2011 07 26
Thank you, Jonathan. You're very right in thinking that I would love that quote. Nothing makes up for the pain of not walking your Path with Heart. Not money, nor fame, nor accolades, nor title, nor the illusory power of the world. By John Heckers, MA, CPC, BCPC on 2011 07 18
John: Enjoyed this post. Thought I'd share a favorite quote of mine that shares some of teh saem sentiments. "The future is not some place we are going to, but one we are creating. The paths are not to be found, but made and the activity of making them changes both the maker and the destination." -- John Schaar Thanks for the post. By Jonathan Spencer / Cascade Env on 2011 07 18
Tom --- Me?!?!? Bull?!?!?! You must be thinking of some other writer! Everything that comes from MY keyboard is like gold from the gods! (Tongue firmly in cheek....) By John Heckers, MA, CPC, BCPC on 2011 07 14
John, always look forward to your sharing. Sometimes I scratch my head, sometimes I nod in complete agreement and sometimes I think what bull. This was a complete nod of agreement. Good job! By Tom Hatch on 2011 07 14
Alsways a pleasure reading your articles John. Even when I don't agree with you (though I usually do), you are always thought provoking and honest. Your point #7 is sure to rile some feathers, but I agree with you. That point has been on my mind a lot the past couple of years. I am employed at the moment, but have have been unemployed due to the economic turmoil and changings paradigms in our society and the world. The days of working for a one or two companies your whole life and having a nice pension to retire with are long, long gone. Our job can't define who we are nor should we attribute self-esteem to it. Obviously there is a need to support our families, but I am learning that it is the big guy upstairs who has more to do with that than I. Many in America profess to have faith, but yet don't have trust that God will provide. Faith without trust is no faith at all. Just my two cents. Thanks John. By Mike Webb on 2011 07 13
Thanks Carol and Chase. I am dismayed, to some degree, by the degree of negativity and fear in our country --- and the lack of compassion for those who are in need. Every great religion (including and, maybe, ESPECIALLY, Christianity) tells us that the way we will be judged is by how we treat the "least of these." I'm continually amazed by those who claim to be so religious and yet would leave anyone who can't "make it" on their own to starve, die from lack of medical care, or otherwise suffer. Compassion for those who are less fortunate (and this definitely includes opening our wallets wide, as well as our hearts...) is a cornerstone of any spiritual practice. We need to remember that in what is rapidly becoming the United Plutocracy of America. By John Heckers, MA, CPC, BCPC on 2011 07 13
Thank you for this article. Every word is true, from my experience. I particularly appreciate the last point you made. Our job is not our source, God is. Our job is a gift through which we can move energy, learn life lessons, connect to others and tap into the real source. I also appreciate your point about fear. My motto - never listen to the voice of fear, no matter where it comes from. We are seeing the result of fear right now in our federal government, which is in gridlock because of fear. Hopefully we can all learn a lesson from these fraidy cats and move beyond gridlock in our own lives. Thanks again! By Carol Rathe on 2011 07 13
Good blog, John. My wife, Kristi LeBlanc, is an executive recruiter of 15 years with firms like Korn/Ferry International and she wrote the triple award winning book (just named "2011 Winner - Spirituality General" by the International Book Awards"), Living with Certainty: Experience Deep-Soul Joy, which provides a blueprint for how to live with deep passion, purpose, positivity, and faith. If you haven't already - you should check it out at http://livingwithcertainty.com/ By Chase LeBlanc on 2011 07 13
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