Find them, and fix them
Liv Syptak //February 26, 2016//
At this point in the year, it’s early enough that some of us are still refining action plans toward our goals, and it’s also far enough into the year that some of us may be wondering why we haven’t achieved anything yet. That’s why this is perfect time to do a little self-assessment about our commitment.
Achieving our utmost potential depends on complete commitment. That means being ALL IN beyond the statement of what we want to achieve, and even beyond the action plans we lay out. And it’s that “other stuff” that we want to check in on. We want to see whether and how we might be inadvertently sabotaging ourselves by being out of alignment with our commitment at levels beneath the surface.
I’m sharing this with you because what I see all too often (and what, quite frankly, I have done myself) is that we state our goal, commit to it intellectually, come up with a blue-sky action plan, and then go about our business as usual…thinking the same thoughts, engaging in the same conversations about what never changes, not doing the things that will bring about real change, and then feeling like crap because we’re not where we want to be.
That’s when we, with our precious goals, fall into what I call commitment gaps.
Some fictitious examples may help to expose some common commitment gaps. See if you can spot them.
Each of these scenarios illustrates all forms of commitment gaps—thinking, feeling and doing. All of which many of us also exhibit in our own goal pursuit. Ugh! Scary!
But there’s good news here. With awareness and deliberate effort all of these gaps can be closed. The path to success can be smoothed. Whether in refining the goal, reaffirming priorities, shifting feelings, changing perception, or creating a more detailed action plan all of these hypothetical people can create meaningful success.
Real, solid commitment comes when everything we say, do, think, and feel is aligned with what we intend to achieve. Real commitment happens when we get clear on the hidden ways that we persist in undermining our potential (but we don’t realize it), and when we put forth the effort stop it.
As long as our actions, thoughts, and feelings are incongruent with a goal that we’ve created those commitment gaps will remain. And not surprisingly, our success and fulfillment from our effort will reflect that.
So please, do mind the gaps. Find yours. Mend them. Ensure that this year you achieve all that you’re capable of!